The Group

Members, friends, and religious leaders of the Bradford Community Church Unitarian Universalist. There were 6 members present.

In addition to the reading, we used an image of men in India wearing skirts to protest rape culture, found here.


The combination of the picture and the reading were excellent. There was a lot of talk about communication, devotion, privilege, and some other topics about opening up to others and finding a way to have community and solidarity and feeling more comfortable in being able to do that without feeling vulnerable.


There were some difficulties. The meeting did not start on time beacause it was hard having people transition out of social hour. Maybe next time I will have the transition a little bit more planned out. There was a bit of a misunderstanding that you were not suppose to analyze the writing like you would in school. I will address this in the intro next time.

Opening Activity

In the introductions I had people describe a group that they currently were a part of. Then I had people pair up and talk about a time when the have been part of a group, been pushed away from a group, and have been the person in a group that has either consciously or unconsciously pushed away someone that wanted to be part of their group.

Discussion Questions

Questions about the image:

  • Why do you think the men chose to wear skirts?
  • How do you think these men's choice to wear skirts impacts the message they are sending to the onlooker?
  • What does a man wearing a skirt say to you?
  • If the men in the picture were not wearing skirts but just the signs with their message do you think it would have the same impact on you? Why or Why not?

Questions about Kafka's "Fellowship":

  • What parts of the piece stick out to you?
  • What is the reason that they continue to associate with one another?
  • What do these guys think about their group?
  • Do you think these five guys have community (fellowship)? Why or Why not?
  • How is the sixth one annoying to the first five?Why don't they " Want to be six"?
  • Why would you think long explanations lead to accepting the sixth? What about short explanations?
  • What do you thing the outsider feels? Why would the sixth want to be part of the five?
  • How does conversation bring forth community?
  • Is a conversation going to bring people together at a deeper level?

Questions about both objects:

  • Thinking about the picture and the reading piece how can conversation go beyond the surface level such as social pleasantries?
  • Do the people in these pieces show solidarity? How?
  • How can we bring the idea of communication and devotion into our congregation?
  • How can we make deeper connections?
  • How can we encourage longer explanations here at the church and in our community?
  • How can we encourage acts of solidarity such as the men wearing skirts?

Closing Activity

The closing was a go around yes or no answer with no explanations to the question "Does it take courage to commit an act of solidarity?"

Final Thoughts

It was a great experience doing this in a community setting I can't wait to see it grow.

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